Abstract from Chinese Women in Love and Marriage written by Dawn Xiao Yan Li
People are people everywhere. Some are good and some are not. Some look for true love and some look for something else. It is not difficult to find out by applying some commonsense. From our years of dating site experience, we find most of the time people were cheated not by individuals, but by marriage agencies. Therefore the first important Asian Dating Precautions that we like to stress is around Chinese dating and marriage agencies.
Chinese Dating and Marriage Agencies/Brokers
As everyone in China knows, there are many money-minded dating and marriage agencies/brokers in China. They make their money by using people who want to get out of China or who are naive. Their customers normally speak little or no English and come from poor remote areas of China. The agencies charge enormous sums of money (roughly equivalent to two year’s salary) in return for guarantees to find a foreign husband for them. Nowadays more and more agencies in China are starting to use the Internet to find foreign husbands for their customers. They divide their service into three stages and charge their customers at each stage: finding/writing fee, meeting fee and success/marriage fee. The agencies look for dates and communicate with the dates on behalf of their customers. Some agencies don’t tell their customers the contact details of the men they are dating so that they can control the whole dating progress.
Many foreign men who have met ladies on the Internet are blind to the truth. When they finally meet their lover they find she is not the one they have corresponded with over the months, and discover her knowledge of English is very poor. Because there was actually no real communication, they find therefore there is no real love. Most such relationships through agencies, sooner or later, fail.
I often hear stories from men like the following:
“I arrived with the expectation that she knew some English and have discovered that she speaks virtually no English. She was using a ‘friend’ from her city to speak with me on the ‘phone and did not tell me this beforehand, so when I arrived I was much disoriented.”
A “friend” here is normally the agent, whose services she pays for.
Dating and marriage agencies/brokers, in general, do not have a good name in China. They are working for their benefit only. We sincerely suggest you to be careful if you use them. If you don’t have an opportunity to meet your lady where you are, the Internet is a great way to find her. However if you do find her through the Internet, make sure you are communicating with the lady herself and not an agent or a “friend”. It is not difficult for you to find out the truth if you are aware bad agencies do exist in China. To avoid being cheated by dishonest dating agencies or ladies when you date on the Internet, I suggest:
To read more Asian Dating precautions, please go to Chinese Women in Love and Marriage