| Communication Getting Together Getting Married Introduction Buying the contact details of a lady from Asian Promise is only a starting point. What do you do now? What should I expect and what do these lovely ladies expect? Why are they likely to be seeking out an foreign partner and willing to leave family members behind? How do you meet? Can she travel? What about Visas, marriage, sex..? These pages are aimed at trying to answer these and many more questions related to relationships with an Asian lady. What to Expect The easy answer is to expect your relationship to be full of the usual mixture of happiness, sadness and anger that you would find in any relationship in which both couples are investing their energy, but with the added complication of language and cultural differences. If this wasn't what you expected to hear, then I'm glad you are reading this. While Asian wives are in my biased opinion the absolute best available to the Western world, I don't want to kid anyone that paying a few dolars for some contact details is automatically going to bring lifelong happiness. A successful relationship with an Asian girl is going to be the result of lots of hard work, energy, commitment and a great deal of compromise and understanding. being a man and a woman is difference enough, but being a Western man and having a relationship with a Chinese lady is going to take some work. However if you want to be loved unconditionally (and don't we all) and are prepared to put in the effort to make it work you stand to gain a lifetime of happiness. Why do these ladies want a relationship with a Western man? Since China has been developing very quickly, people's lives have improved a lot over the last decade. From talking to our members we have found that most ladies in Asian Promise are not particularly looking for money or for a way to leave China. They are looking for love. Chinese men are reluctant to accept ladies who have been married before and particularly so if they have a child (you may have noticed that most of our members fall into this category). Ladies are therefore turning to Asian Promise to help them to find love from Westerners, who generally tend to be more accepting of partners who have been married before and/or have children. In essence, although the economy has developed in China, changes in the way people think has lagged behind. Of course we can never exclude the possibility of a woman being selfish, it is also understandable that a lady would want to improve her life standard and quality of life (general speaking, the quality of life in developed countries is still better than China). There is no substitution for finding out each others sincerity through good communication with her carried out over a number of months by email, telephone and personal visits. We have some interesting contents about culture which you may find helpful in understanding communication with your chosen lady and remember that Asian Promise is run by a Chinese and English couple who are always willing to share their knowledge of cross cultural relationships with those seriously looking for an Asian bride. What about sex? Like most woman, Asian ladies enjoy sex with someone they love and can feel safe with. Chinese ladies tend to be fairly traditional around sex and may not be comfortable with some more liberal suggestions about the place and manner of having sex when they first know you. But sex is such an exciting part of life that you will have plenty of time to explore and experiment once you have go to know each other better. On your first visit to see your girlfriend be a gentleman and book separate rooms. After you feel more comfortable with each other, you will quite likely end up sleeping together, but you must just take things as they go. Don't ruin a lifetime of potential becase you think you are ready to sleep together before she does. When you do sleep together leave plenty of time for touching and cuddling. Asian bodies are great for exploring and the Asian skin is silky smooth. Touching will help bring you two much closer together. Wear a condom when having sex. Hepatitis, AIDS and VD are common to both the Western and Chinese worlds and both you and her will feel much more relaxed about having sex without having to think about all these risks at the same time as you are getting to know someone for the first time. Wearing a condom is also a reasonable protection against pregnancy. Asian women are quite fertile and contraception should not be based on a time of the month approach or forgotten about all together. Filipino ladies are Catholic and may either encourage you to use the rhythm method and should they get pregnant, may object to the suggestion of an abortion. In contrast some Chinese ladies may be complacent about the risk of pregnancy as abortion is fairly common place in China and you may not feel happy at her readiness to abort your unborn child. Enjoy your experience together. Marriage After meeting each other and if everything is going well, in most cases the man will apply for a fiancee visa for the lady from his country. After she gets this fiancee visa, she can come to your country and marry to you. In America there is some time for the lady to spend in the US before she has to get married to be sure she is ready to commit herself and will be happy in the country. See our page on Getting Married for advice on obtaining Fiancee Visas. Back to Top | 
