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| | Chinese Women in Love and Marriage A Guide to Happiness in Cross-Cultural Relationships (renamed from "A Guide to Find a Chinese Bride" in September 2006) | 
Dawn Xiao Yan Li Author | 
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Scott P. Merry Editor | | First published June 2006 © Asian Promise Ltd. 2006 |
Let's bridge the gulf of misunderstandings & intolerance, cultivate cultural awareness & diversity through intercultural love and marriage, and lead to a better world in which to live! | Contents Introduction 1. A Brief History of Chinese Marriage 2. Chinese Women in Dating and Marriage -
The past: Victims of marriage -
Chinese women today -
How Chinese women differ from other Asian women? -
How Chinese women differ from Western women? -
Why choose Chinese ladies? -
Why Chinese ladies choose you? 3. Dating Chinese Women | 4. How to Communicate Well 5. Chinese Cultural tips on Dating and Marriage -
General culture tips -
Food cultural tips 6. Getting Married - Paperwork 7. Afterword |
| The e-book runs on the Windows operating system only. Once the book is downloaded, it can be updated by re-downloading it on the same computer at any time. The book was first published in June (the first 3 chapters) and completed in July 2006 (around 35,000 words). If you are a subscription member of Asian Promise, you will be given one copy of the e-book for free. The book is also available for anyone to buy. The cost is US$25 per e-book. Download the e-book first in each case and follow the instructions inside the book. Do you believe? The first 10 copies of the book were sold two weeks before it was completed! |
| Some of the questions you all want answers to.. -
What love, marriage and family values are held by Chinese women today? -
Do Chinese women find western men attractive? -
Why do Chinese women choose Western men? Why choose Chinese women? -
How Chinese women differ from other Asian and Western women? -
Can love exist with different cultures and backgrounds? -
How to communicate well with someone from a different culture and background? -
How to find a Chinese bride through the Internet? -
How do I write my profile? How do I write my first email to her? -
Will the relationship be built on personality, friendship and integrity, not money or others? -
How do I know her sincerity and her intention? -
How do I know she is my Miss/Ms right? What are the good questions for me to ask? -
How do I master my dating progress with her? Can I sleep with her after 1 or 2 dates? -
What is the right time for me to visit her in person if we meet online? Should I visit her first? -
Is it safe to travel to China? Can she visit me first? -
What does sex mean to Chinese women? Can I discuss sex with her? -
How to improve our communication if her English is not so good! How can I help her English? -
Cultural Tips on dating Chinese women -
Communication tips for long distance relationships -
Warning tips to protect you from being cheated -
How long does it take to get fiancé visa and how to process it? -
What documents are required if I marry her in China? -
More questions? ... Please read the book. Find the answers in "Chinese Women in Love and Marriage"! |
Book Review - by Richard Kaser The statistics have shown that there are more and more cross-cultural relationships emerging as the world becomes increasingly international. “Chinese Women in Love and Marriage - A Guide to Happiness in Cross-Cultural Relationships ” is a production of the new era. It guides Western men to date Chinese ladies for love and marriage. It helps Westerners to achieve happy cross-cultural relationships with Chinese women. The book was renamed from "A Guide to Find a Chinese Bride" in September 2006 to closer reflect the books contents and aims. The book is written by a cross-cultural relationship expert with a unique perspective on relationships between Western men and Chinese women, built on her own life experience and from 6 years of running the dating website Asian Promise. Lots of true stories have been used to demonstrate the author’s views and suggestions in the book. The book begins by briefly looking at the historical background of marriage in China to gain perspective on Chinese thoughts and philosophy of marriage today. It then focuses on Chinese women, their experiences and expectations of marriage in the past and present and the differences compared to the rest of Asia and the West. Chapter 3 then gets to the meat of the questions that Westerners all have. It provides a comprehensive guide on dating Chinese ladies with a special section on online dating - a popular method for cross-cultural dating today. The book covers very practical issues such as how to start your search, what to write, when to visit, how to avoid being cheated and more sensitive subjects such as sex and money. Chapter 4 looks at the universally important subject of communication, but which is even more important here due to the cultural and differences. The author highlights many possible areas of conflict and misunderstanding and explains the cultural background from which these might arise. The key message is that differences are not necessarily bad, but that good communication skill is the key to success. The remaining chapters provide very practical and relevant cultural tips and advice on how to go about getting married whether in China or in the West. The book has given an insight into Chinese women and helps Westerners to understand Chinese women comprehensively. Until now, what information can be gleaned about Chinese ladies today is still scarce, shallow and even biased. Therefore, besides its practical value, “Chinese Women in Love and Marriage” is also a useful reference book for Chinese study. | You are truly welcome to send us your comments and suggestions for the book Thank you! Thank you! This is a fabulous book and just what I wanted. What a valuable service you offer! I feel love in Chengdu but your book is just what I need to make sure. I have met a lovely lady on the internet and I am travelling to China in October to meet her, then your book is a "Godsend" because it seems to answer all those questions that go through your mind and enlightens you on many aspects of the cultural differences but fills you with a certain confidence that you are doing the right thing and that it is not so unusual after all ! That was a long sentence in bad English but it came from within! I understand copyright problem, of course. If you do publish it please let me know. I would like to buy a hard copy. Thank you again. - Allen (United Kingdom) I have read all of the book, and I must say I found it interesting reading. - David (New Zealand) Great Book! I loved your book - “Chinese Women in Love and Marriage.” The content was very clearly written and well organized and gave me confidence in how to approach a relationship with a Chinese woman that I had met online before purchasing your book. I shall travel to Beijing to meet her next month to see if our relationship is meant to be. I had a question on how to obtain your other book written in Chinese for my girlfriend that she might also be enlightened to Western Culture as I have been to hers. Thank you so much, - Chris (USA) The book is very well written. Thank you very mcuh. - Tim (Australia) It is wonderful to read Dawn Xiao Yan's new book "Chinese Women in Love and Marriage". She has painted a very real picture of Chinese women on the marriage in the past and nowadays. I have to say Dawn is the right person to write this book. Although it is a book to help Western men to find Chinese lady for love, however as a Chinese lady, I also find helpful. I am appreciated that the book helps me to discover myself, which I never tried before, such as how I differ from western ladies, what the value I have as a Chinese woman in Western men’s eyes. As you can see, being a divorced woman with a kid, plus higher education than most of Chinese men, it is difficult for me to find a Chinese partner in China. The discovery has given me more confidence on searching my happiness in an inter-cultural marriage. To develop a cross-cutural relationship is not easy as we all could imagine. It is a hard work especially for us to meet online. It needs more patience, energy, belief and perseverance. Currently I have been dating with a guy from USA for10 months. He is very sincere and a very good guy. However we haven’t met in person, which has made me difficult to keep being patient and confident. I have introduced this book to my boyfriend recently. Hopefully with "Chinese Women in Love and Marriage - A Guide to Happiness in Cross Cultural Relationships", we will develop our relationship easier and happier. - Ping (China) |
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