我是来自美丽的海滨城市北海的会员，我是在去年九月中旬入会的。想必每个女人都渴望拥有一个完美的人生——丈夫，孩子，家庭，我想要的幸福也就这么简单。仔细算算，真令人难以置信我在“中诚”才几个月的时间就找到了我生命中等待的那个男人。直到现在我才明白，要找到幸福，就要找到有幸福的地方。在此我们很感谢晓燕夫妇，是在你们的引领下我们才能体验到什么是幸福，这份谢意难以用言辞表达。此刻，面对晓燕和姐妹们，我总想讲讲我在中诚的一段刻骨铭心的经历。

我只是希望找一个能跟我共度一生，能一起幸福的生活的男人。曾叹人海茫茫，何处寻？确实在现实生活中寻找也很难，特别对我们这些记忆里曾存有过灰色的人来说，我们还会相信爱情吗？但我相信世界之大足可以满足你去寻爱，真爱是在寻找有心的人。

记得有一天，我在网上搜索一些信息时，晓燕那发自心底的迷人微笑把我引入了她的世界。但当时对于这种找另一半的方法，我不是很相信。当时我和你们中的很多人一样都对互联网存有一定的偏见和误解，今天想起来，我们应该感谢我们的网络服务商们，是他们给我们提供了一个快捷的联系方式，我们才能够有缘和远隔千山万水的他相识相爱。尽管那时我还不知道今后的情况如何，我想与其在那里独自叹息，还不如给自己一个向外展示的机会。犹豫再三我还是试着给晓燕发了几封邮件，记得我曾跟她说过我不怕一时的交友失败，只是害怕失意时得不到安慰。对我的疑虑她一一耐心解答，说实话，是她的诚意打动了我，我很庆幸自己选择了“中诚”。

我们都知道，那些满嘴说着我爱你和写着最热烈的优美的情书的，不一定是最爱我们的，只有细节才让人感动。我是在去年11月底才认识我先生的，我们认识几天后他就开始每天都给我打电话。不久就是圣诞节，记得他从加拿大回英国过圣诞节之前，他说怕我担心，就主动把父母的住址和电话告诉我，这样好让我可以随时找到他，他也会每天都和我联系的。当时我还在西大读书，身边没有电脑，他每天保持给我打一个多小时的电话，每天不漏地他足足打了两个多月。我知道越洋电话很贵，不仅仅是我被他的细心和行动所感动，连我宿舍的那些女孩都对他佩服不已。过去只听说过西方男士特别尊重女性，没有亲身经历之前只权当道听途说，的确他们在对待女性的问题上是世界有名的尊敬和考虑周到。

从我先生的身上，我可以感受到英国男人的绅士和幽默，常常被他逗得笑掉大牙，是他让我知道世界上有美好的事情太多了。我们的爱情也一天天的走向成熟，在春暖花开的美丽3月我们在中国结婚了。在此很感谢我们的一个会员姐妹不远万里赶来参加我们的婚礼，借此我也祝她早日和男友见面。

在“中诚”这里，你不但可以找到自己梦寐以求的爱情，还可以找到友谊和信心。“会员交流”和“见面会”让我有幸认识了很多好姐妹，我们时常在一起讨论爱情和人生，当然大家谈论最多的话题是交友进展和英语。我是2001年底开始学英语的，当时连国际音标是什么东西我还搞不清楚，几乎可以说我是从ABC开始的。自己第一次拿起英语课本的时候觉得就象看天书一样，不免有过很多的担心和怀疑自己的能力，但我还是告诉自己无论如何也要坚持下去。现在我居然可以用英语自如地和我的先生交谈，连我自己都不敢相信这是真的。回想起当初自己走过的每一步艰辛的脚印，看到今天的成绩，心里感到无比的欣慰，更值得高兴的是我还找到了失落多年的信心。

我认为学语言注重的是交流，这是一条快捷有效的学习方法，无论你开始的时候英语水平如何，没有人会笑你。其实，我的成功也有赖于英语，所以我常常鼓励姐妹们尝试在交往中去努力提高自己的英语，当你会说一口流利的英语的时候，请相信幸福离你也不远了。

晓燕，任何人能给你和你的丈夫的最好称赞是，你们能让他们永远记住你们，因为在中诚，他们可以找到梦想。

我是会员1306，我应该感谢你的网站给予我的帮助，使我先后在短短的4-5个月间收到近70封来信。现在我已经初步确定了自己的选择，为了彼此尊重，我希望你能帮助我关闭我的资料窗口。

我和我的男朋友每天在网上见面，他已经在网上向我求婚，并且计划在7月和我在中国登记结婚。他是个很聪明和正义的男人，我们彼此是很谨慎的，但也是很愉快地交往。他和我的儿子成为很好的朋友，他们有共同的幽默。危难之中见真情，就在中国发生SARS(非典)的期间，他坚持到中国和我结婚，我被深深地感动，也让我的家人深深地感动。现在，为了中国的结婚登记，他已经办理了全部的证明纸。我现在每天注视SARS的发展状态，如果中国的SARS仍有危险，我是不能让他来的。健康、快乐、尊重、爱是我们的未来的共同生活的目标。

在“中诚”网，我有一些家的感觉，你是一个有信誉和真正为别人着想的人，当我登记在你的网站之后，你几次给我电话，还在msn中和我交流，鼓励我，也提醒我慎重。我非常喜欢你的为人，我是谨慎的人，朋友不是很多，但我愿意和你是朋友。

我想通过此信，告诉全部的中诚网的姐妹，这里是值得我们信赖和充满爱的地方，祝愿有情人终成眷属。

Such a special occasion

 Thank you for helping me find the girl I will spend the rest of my life with. I have been searching for my soulmate for so long, and then I discovered Asian Promise web site. 
  We met through Asian Promise in November 2002. Since that time, we became very close by contacting each other by telephone and on the internet. 
  In March 2003, I came to China to meet my girl and we were married just a few days later. We had a traditional Chinese wedding in her home town. Lots of friends came to the wedding, it was such a special occasion. 
  I am writing this email from China with my beautiful wife, Lily, sitting right here beside me. I know we will be very happy together in our future.

Tony, Britain, April 2003

Jing and Roger

 
It was a very lonely night for me when I decided to play on the computer and maybe try to meet an Asian girl. I thought it might be nice to find a friend that I could write to and tell my heart to. Getting divorced after being married for 22 years had really taken it's toll on me. The divorce had devastated me. I was feeling so very alone and very sad.

All I wanted was someone who I could write to, maybe even talk to on the phone sometimes. I had heard that Asian women had a different attitude than American women did. I thought I would find out for myself. I didn't really like being so alone and I did feel so very alone.

Somehow I found Asian Promise (www.asianpromise.com) and began looking at the different profiles Asian women had posted. There were many women to look at and so I wrote a letter (e-mail) and sent it to several of them. It was the same letter to each. I wondered who if anyone would answer to such a lonely and depressed man. I was 50 years old now and in debt. I was feeling so lost in life. Yet still I sent the letters.

By the grace of God I received this e-mail from a girl named 'Vanessa.' Her name sure didn't sound Asian to me, but her profile said she was Chinese and her photo looked as if she was Chinese. But a Chinese girl? From communist Red China? It felt a little bit scary to contact someone from Red China That's what I had been taught to call the country of China. 

We began writing to each other quite a bit. I had so much hurt in my heart that to be able to release it to this girl who was so far away from me was truly a blessing. The many miles between us was more than enough to let me feel safe and secure. At that time I couldn't trust any woman. I just wanted a friend. It seemed to me that I had found one with this Chinese woman whose real name I found out was Xujing. Now that name sounded Asian to me.

For many years it had been a dream of mine to go to the great wall of China. I never imagined that such a dream could come true for me. It was so far away and it would cost so much money to go to see it. Of course after a while I did ask Xujing if she had ever seen the Great wall of China. To my surprise she told me of course she had, it was right there in Beijing. I thought she was so lucky. I dreamed of going to China to see the Great Wall myself.

A few weeks later Xujing invited me to visit China. She even said she would bring me to the Great Wall. She told me she would take good care of me, that she could do many things for me if I came to meet her. But to be honest, my desire to go to China was not to meet Xujing. All I thought about was going to see the Great Wall. I had no desire for a girlfriend or any relationship more than just as a friend. I didn't want to lead my Chinese friend on nor did I want to try to take advantage of her. I was very honest in all of my communications to Xujing. I love adventure. I love romance too, but I wasn't ready for any more romance in my life. I'd settle for some adventure though. There were a million reasons not to go to China and only one reason to go - to see the Great Wall. I could not afford the time and I had no money. But I still wanted to go. I searched online and began the process of finding out more about travelling to this foreign exotic land of mystery. But I was scared about it. I mean, I was going to communist China to see a girl who I only knew from the computer. I had heard so many bad stories about these relationships and meetings through the computer. I found out was that to stay with a Chinese family in Beijing, I would need to get a special license/permit from the Beijing police. OK, no problem. I was going to Beijing to see the Great Wall. I was just going to see a friend, that's all. A friend who was going to bring me to the Great Wall.

As I traveled for 17 hours on the plane, I got to know the flight attendants. I like to talk. They thought it was quite exciting about what I was doing. They told me that they had seen many people travel as I was to meet someone they had met on the computer. As long as both of the people had been totally honest with each other, they said, there was a good chance that things would go good. The flight attendants wished me luck and gave me a new full bottle of American wine for me to share with my new Chinese friends. They were all so nice to me and I enjoyed the flight very much even though it took so long. My adventure to China had really begun in earnest.

Excited and ready for the best, hopefully, I arrived in Beijing. Somehow above all the noise from an International airport, I heard the small sound of Xujing's voice calling my name. There she was, for real. She was a woman too thankfully. She had not lied to me yet! She even looked cuter than her photo and she was all smiles. Her English was good enough for me too. Against my protests, she took me to her mother's home where she said I would stay for the week. I told her about the police license I thought I needed and that I would just stay in a hotel. But she laughed and told me it was no problem. She said that it was OK, things were not like that in Beijing now.

Never do I remember being so welcomed anywhere as I was at her Mom's home. Her family made me feel so welcome, so special and wanted. I cannot even begin to explain how nice these people were to me. Just thinking about it now as I write this makes my heart feel so warm and grateful for now having such close friends and family. They shared all they had and gave their love so freely and truly, so completely. My God had blessed me so much bringing me to Beijing.

Xujing brought me to many places to see many things. I did go to the Great Wall of China. The Chinese say you are not a hero unless you reach the top of the Great wall. My dream had come true, I did climb and reach the top. Xujing made my dream come true for me. It was she who made my visit to China so great. She was the nicest of everyone there. For the entire nine days I was there, she took very good care of me. She brought me to see the Forbidden City, the Emperors Summer Palace, the Temple of Heaven and the Lama Temple. I met her family and her friends who all made me feel more than welcome in their homes. They all even gave me presents. So many presents. It is the Chinese way I was told. I was so glad I had that bottle of wine. I have never experienced such a wonderful place before in my life. Mostly it was the Chinese people that I met who made my stay in Beijing so wonderful. But it was Xujing who was the best to me. She was amazing.

Just before I was to leave China and head on home, Xujing told me that she had fallen in love with me. Oh boy......... oh boy, I had to get back home real quick I thought. I hadn't planned on this. I didn't know what to say or do except that I should hurry up and get back to the good old USA. That is just what I did too. I remember how good I felt then to get back to the USA.
I spent the next few months working hard trying to pay for my trip, but I found myself calling Xujing everyday more and more. I couldn't get her out of my thoughts. When I found myself driving down the highway with her photo on my dashboard, I started asking myself what the heck was I doing? I wasn't ready for a girlfriend. Especially one who was so far away, one who was on the other side of the world even. But I had never known a woman like her before. No one could be so unselfish. After all, I am an American. I am use to selfish people. I am selfish myself. But she wasn't. It couldn't be true. No one was really like her. No one could truly be that way. My mind was playing tricks on me. It had to be.

That is when I decided maybe I should go back to China again to see for sure. Yes, again. Again she was just awesome. Her family was awesome. Her friends were awesome. Everything about her was awesome.

She took me on a trip to Phuket Island in Thailand for five days. I got to swim in the Indian Ocean! How cool is that? We laughed so much and had so much fun together. I felt so at ease with her. I soon realized I had fallen in love with her too. How could I not fall in love with such a wonderful Chinese woman as she is? My God has truly blessed me. How grateful I am to 'asianpromise.com' for introducing me to Xujing.

We had a wonderful small wedding that my entire family here in America were very happy about. They are all very accepting of Xujing and all of them like her very much. Everyone treats her with the most respect and kindness as she treats me and them.

As hard as it is for me to believe, I am now a happy man. To think of all the troubles I have gone through in my life and to now be able to start a new life with such a great wife is truly a blessing for me and my family. I praise God, My Lord Jesus Christ for all the blessings He has rained down onto me.

Recently we found out that Xujing is now pregnant too. Wow, I am 51 years old and I am going to have a new baby. God is so great to me. I'm going to be a Daddy again. Life is wonderful. I am happy. Of course life will bring problems to us in America as in any country, but I think together we will rise above any troubles and hopefully live happily ever after. Why can't life be like a fairy tale? So far, life is good. I smile a lot now with Xujing. It is a nice feeling to love and be loved.
　
Roger P. Anderson, U.S.A. February 2003

是 “中 诚” 让 我 美 梦 成 真

我是来自南宁的“中诚”会员Lucy，我已经成功的找到我的另一半，他是一位加拿大人。我在此感谢“中诚”，是“中诚”缘分的天空让我寻找到我的终生伴侣、是“中诚”的一份缘让我们在网络上相识相爱、是“中诚”的一份爱心让我们成为幸福的伴侣，我由衷地感谢“中诚”的帮助。

我是于去年5月份加入“中诚”的，上网后不到一个月就在认识了我的先生，于是我们通过每天的E-mail联络，有时使用电话，渐渐地培养感情。中西方有着不同的文化和语言，确实在语言方面是有阻碍的。我的英语水平不是很高，但是我在与先生交谈时，用简单的词汇外加手语。所以各位会员姐妹，请不要担心语言上的阻碍，请用手语来帮助。人之相交，要以诚相待，我们在交往中都是坦诚相对的，关心对方、爱护对方、理解对方。通过双方的努力，在今年2月份我终于与我的先生在国内幸福结婚了，我们家人也非常喜欢我的先生，他们为我的幸福而高兴。现在我们正在等待办理签证去加拿大与我丈夫团聚。

如果没有“中诚”缘分的天空，我不知道去哪里寻找我的幸福生活。是“中诚”让我美梦成真。再次感谢“中诚”全体工作人员，谢谢你们的帮助。

1184/Lucy (广西南宁) ，2002年10月

爱 情 滋 润 了 我

Sali and Damien

我是“中诚（Asian Promise)”的一名会员，会员号是“1233”，我来自北京。我是今年一月底成为“中诚”的会员，入会不久我先后收到一些外国朋友的来信和资料，经过一段时间的接触与了解，最后我与其中的一个来自加拿大的朋友开始了网上的交往。我们彼此了解对方的兴趣、爱好及对未来的向往，每天通过E-mail交流感情。

今年五月他来北京与我见面，见面之后我们彼此的感觉很好，很快我们确定了恋爱关系。今年七月我去韩国(他在韩国工作)再一次与他会面，爱情进一步得到了发展，今年九月他既将到北京工作，我们计划在北京注册结婚。我认为成功的关键在于双方要有诚意，最重要的是你需要了解对方的想法，他是否真的想要有一个家庭，只有这样你才能知道自已应该做什么。交往中双方要了解彼此的兴趣爱好，多找一些双方感兴趣的话题，这样可以丰富谈话内容。

我非常感谢“中诚”与晓燕女士给我的机会，让我终于找到了生活中的另一半，在此我也祝愿每一位朋友相信自己、真诚相待，在“中诚”找到自已的真爱。

1233/Sali (北京)，2002年9月

I hope that in the future 

you will have the same success with

many other members of Asian Promise

- May, 2002 - 

Tracy and Torsten

请相信自己，幸福就在你的脚下　

各位姐妹：

我是“中诚(Asian Promise)的一名会员，会员号是“1028”，我来自北京。同你们一样，当我走进“中诚”时，是为了寻找生活的未来与幸福，但心理又没有很大把握，我们都是第一次尝试性地进入了“中诚”的大门。但当我成为她的会员后，我就深深地感受到她的真诚与希望。“中诚”的李晓燕女士热心的为每一位会员服务，并且很耐心地回答我在与外国朋友交往中遇到的问题。我经常向她请教如何交往的技巧，从她那里我学到了许多成功经验与知识，我们从小在中国长大的孩子与西方国家有着许多差异，这些经验为我与我的男友Torsten的恋爱提供了很大的帮助。我很幸运遇到晓燕这样真诚善良的朋友，在此深深地感谢她。

今年四月通过“中诚”我认识了来自德国的Torsten，至今我们已交往了近8个月，双方都很诚实地表述各自的生活经历与看法。正是由于这种坦诚使我们相互吸引，最终愿意一起走完今后的人生道路。我的另一个感受就是每天的邮件是我们互相沟通必不可少的重要手段，通过网上书信来往我们逐步走进了对方的内心世界，所以当我们初次见面时(认识后的四个月)，好象相识已久，并不觉得陌生，我们都觉得对方的外表已不是那末的重要，因为我们的心已贴在了一起。今年11月他再次来中国与我见面，我们之间确立了未婚夫妻的关系(已在办理未婚妻签证)，计划明年3或4月间举行婚礼。